2021-2022 VBA Women’s Mentorship Program
January Content Theme
Bank Financial Management Webinar: Part One
Please Source These Before You Watch Part One:
- Your Bank’s Annual Report or Quarterly Financials
- Comparative Years of Data
- Audit Opinion
Read the letter to shareholders from your CEO and determine the following:
- What is your Bank’s total assets? (balance sheet)
- How much money did your Bank make last year? (income statement)
- Will your Bank surpass that amount this year?
- What percent are your loans growing?
- What percent are your deposits growing?
Bank Financial Management Webinar: Part Two
- Look Up the FOMC Meeting Dates for the upcoming year.
- Predict the FOMC decision for its next meeting.
- Ask your CFO what your bank’s budget assumption is for interest rates for the year.
- Ask if you can attend a portion of an ALCO meeting to hear about the interest rate impacts.
Bank Financial Management Webinar: Part Three
- Ask your Mentor for list of industry resources & reading materials
- Ask admired co-workers for industry reading suggestions
- Find out resources such as subscriptions to VBA, ABA publications, and others sources such as online newspapers, etc. (SeeVBA Mentorship Program Page)
Social Media Groups:
February Content Theme
Free VBA Webinar: Cryptocurrency 101: A Banker’s Perspective, presented by Cary Ayers, Atlantic Union Bank
Reflect on Your Week – Write down three things that went well and one you thing maybe you could have done better
Book Recommendation: How the Word is Passed by Clint Smith
Take a Risk!
March/April Content Theme
Career planning/Development: Direction resources
- Article: A Simple Way to Map Out Your Career Ambitions
- Article: Think Strategically About Your Career Development
- Podcast: Work Life with Adam Grant – The Perils of Following Your Career Passion
- Book: Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
Career planning/Development: strengths resources
- High5 Strengths Test
- CliftonStrengths Books
- Podcast: Work Life with Adam Grant – When Strengths Become Weaknesses
Career Planning/Development: Skills and Education Resources
The Strategic “No”
- Video: The Strategic “No”
May/June Content Theme
Confidence – May/June Video
- The Confidence Code by Kathy Kay and Claire Shipman
- Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
- Mastering Your Inner Critic by Susan Brady
Motivation: May/June Video
July/August Content Theme
July/August Video: Resilience
Additional Resources on resiliency
- Bounce Forward: The Extraordinary Resilience of Leadership by Eileen T. Allison-Napolitano
- TEDx: Resilience, The Up Side of Down
- The Importance of Resilience with Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant
- The Resilient Leader: The Critical Attribute That Helps Women in Leadership Rise
- What We Can Learn About Resilience from Female Leaders of the UN by Monique Valcour
- Emotional Resilience: The Attribute Helping Women Leaders Stand Out by EWF International
Mentor and Mentee Training
Slay Like a Mother
Part One: Let’s Slay Together
Chapter One: Fighting and Winning My Own Battle; Katherine provides background on how she came to identify her own dragon.
Chapter Two: Meet your Dragon
- Question: What could have knowingly or unknowingly stripped you of your self-confidence and/or self-esteem? Page 33
- EXERCISE: Complete the How to Spot a Dragon Checklist on page 35. Question: How many indicators did you select and which ones cause the most suffering in your life? See workbook.
- Question: If you’re living with a dragon of self-doubt, are you able to identify when and how it was initially born? If so, how old were you?
Chapter Three: The Fine Line between Struggling and Suffering
- Question: What is the difference between struggling and suffering? Do these two forces currently show up in your life and if so, how?
- Question: What can you do to stop struggling from turning to suffering? Pages 51-52
- EXERCISE: Look at factors that are hard in your life
and identify how you might be making them harder than they have
to be (crossing the line from struggling to suffering).
- Step 1: What’s hard in your life right now?
- Step 2: How are you making those challenges harder than they have to be?
- Step 3: How can you make these situations easier?
- The answers to these questions should contain clues…The theme behind my suffering is ________________________.
Part Two: Seven Ways You’re Feeding Your Dragon and How to Stop
Chapter 4: You Set Superhero Expectations in a Mortal’s World
- EXERCISE: What are your expectations for yourself? Are they realistic? Page 75, see workbook.
- Question: What challenges/obstacles are you experiencing right now in your life – home, work, marriage, friends, kids, passions? Page 77, see workbook.
- EXERCISE: What are realistic expectations for yourself? How can you change unrealistic to those that will provide relief instead of suffering? Page 80-81, see workbook.
Chapter 5: You Quietly Yell at Yourself – All Day, Every Day
- EXERCISE: How do you talk to yourself? Complete exercises 1 and 2 on pages 96 – 98, see workbook.
Chapter 6: You Posture Like a Pro, Then Wonder Why Nobody Sees Your Pain
- EXERCISE: Answer the questions regarding how your mask shows up in your life and when and why are you wearing it. Page 115. See workbook.
- Question: On pages 124 and 125, there are a few suggestions to help remove your mask and show more of your true self. Did you find any of these particularly helpful?
Chapter 7: You Compare the Way You Feel to the Way Others Look
- Question: Why do you compare yourself to others? Page 136
- EXERCISE: When you make assumptions, you set yourself up to suffer. List out assumptions you’ve made about others that are not true and assumptions others made about you that are not true. Page 141. See workbook.
- Question: Have you been able to break the habit of comparing yourself to others by paying attention to when you may be doing it? What has been effective in helping you do this? Page 144
Chapter 8: You.Just.Can’t.Say.No
- EXERCISE: How to learn to say no by setting priorities. Practice by separating things into major or minor items to draw boundaries and get some of your life back. Page 159. See workbook.
- Question: Can you provide a recent example of when you have said no and set boundaries in advance? Page 160. What about saving yes to something because it is what you wanted to do? Page 164.
- EXERCISE: Saying Yes to Yourself…complete the chart by listing the top activities that bring you joy and fulfillment; complete the top activities or factors in your life that drain and exhaust you. Pick two activities from the left column and put them on your calendar as a recurring meeting starting five weeks from now. Page 167. See workbook.
Chapter 9: You Forecast the Worst for the Future
- EXERCISE: Undue anxiety and worry can be caused by focusing too much on the future. Identify three problems that you have right now…Living in the Present. Page 175. See workbook.
- EXERCISE: While worrying may feel comforting, does it really work? Write down three examples of times you were convinced things would turn out terribly and they turned out just fine. Fearing the Future. Page 185. See workbook.
- Question: Have you been able to get more comfortable living in the present moment? What has been working for you to do so? Page 186
Chapter 10: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
- Question: Why is it so important to love yourself and be proud of your accomplishments? Page 196
- EXERCISE: What’s keeping you from embracing your greatness? List a few ways in which you’re cutting yourself off from self-love (negative actions and lack of positive ones). Cutting Yourself Off. Page 202. See workbook.
- Question: Katherine encourages practicing unconditional love to yourself and has outlined several exercises to help with this goal. Have you tried them out? Page 210
General Question: In Part 2 of the book (chapters 4 – 10), Katherine reveals the seven ways you’re feeding your dragon and how to stop. Which behaviors in this section do you find yourself exhibiting the most frequently and why?
Part Three: Getting Rid of Your Dragon for Good and Part Four: It’s Bigger Than You
- Suggested Questions
- Katherine references three positive and proactive measures to instill a deep sense of inner peace and contentment: Gratitude, self-compassion and honesty. Does this resonate with you and how will you start practicing thinking more positively about yourself?
- What do you look forward to the most regarding living a life free from a dragon of self-doubt? How different do you think your life will look?
- What changes in culture would help us move through the world with more confidence and self-compassion?
- What can you do to help another woman slay her dragon of self-doubt?
- What can start doing today to teach your children to be dragon slayers?
Suggested Exercises – See workbook
Dear Dragon: Write a message of gratitude to your dragon. Page 226.
Your Intuition: Do you know the difference between the voice of your intuition and your dragon’s echo? Complete the exercise to help you see the difference. Page 241.
Defining Success: Now that you’re no longer under your dragon’s influence, how will you define success for yourself? Page 271
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General Resources/ Recommendations (podcasts, books, etc)
- The Servant by James C. Hunter
- The Leadership Secrets of Santa Claus by Eric Harvey
- Type R: Transformative Resilience for Thriving in a Turbulent World
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